Biyernes, Disyembre 31, 2010

The Three Forms of Closure

For her traumatic wounds to heal, the victim of abuse requires closure - one final interaction with her tormentor in which he, hopefully, acknowledges his misbehaviour and even tenders an apology. Fat chance. Few abusers - especially if they are narcissistic - are amenable to such weakling pleasantries. More often, the abused are left to wallow in a poisonous stew of misery, self-pity, and self-recrimination.

Depending on the severity, duration, and nature of the abuse, there are three forms of effective closure.

Conceptual Closure

This most common variant involves a frank dissection of the abusive relationship. The parties meet to analyze what went wrong, to allocate blame and guilt, to derive lessons, and to part ways cathartically cleansed. In such an exchange, a compassionate offender (quite the oxymoron, admittedly) offers his prey the chance to rid herself of cumulating resentment. 

He also disabuses her of the notion that she, in any way, was guilty or responsible for her maltreatment, that it was all her fault, that she deserved to be punished, and that she could have saved the relationship (malignant optimism). With this burden gone, the victim is ready to resume her life and to seek companionship and love elsewhere.

Retributive Closure

When the abuse has been "gratuitous" (sadistic), repeated, and protracted, conceptual closure is not enough. Retribution is called for, an element of vengeance, of restorative justice and a restored balance. Recuperation hinges on punishing the delinquent and merciless party. The penal intervention of the Law is often therapeutic to the abused.



Regrettably, the victim's understandable emotions often lead to abusive (and illegal) acts. Many of the tormented stalk their erstwhile abusers and take the law into their own hands. Abuse tends to breed abuse all around, in both prey and predator.

Dissociative Closure

Absent the other two forms of closure, victims of egregious and prolonged mistreatment tend to repress their painful memories. In extremis, they dissociate. The Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) - formerly known as "Multiple Personality Disorder" - is thought to be such a reaction. The harrowing experiences are "sliced off", tucked away, and attributed to "another personality". 

Sometimes, the victim "assimilates" his or her tormentor, and even openly and consciously identifies with him. This is the narcissistic defence. In his own anguished mind, the victim becomes omnipotent and, therefore, invulnerable. He or she develops a False Self. The True Self is, thus, shielded from further harm and injury.

According to psychodynamic theories of psychopathology, repressed content rendered unconscious is the cause of all manner of mental health disorders. The victim thus pays a hefty price for avoiding and evading his or her predicament. 

Winner's Gold from Personal Garbage

Have you noticed how everybody takes it for granted a bad experience is automatically, unreservedly, unremittingly bad? That nothing good could ever come from a bad childhood, for example? 

I'm hearing the comment more and more often that we have become a victim society. Maybe this is true? Consider...

Don't we hear these comments a lot? I was mistreated when I was a child... I was a lonely latchkey kid... My ancestors got a bad break, so I'm... I lived in a poor, disadvantaged family... I grew up in a broken home... I didn't get the proper advantages... I was constantly criticized as a child...

Every one of these comments sounds a lot like self-pity, like "I can't be helped because I've been scarred beyond reclaim." 

Well, maybe all of the bare facts are true, but isn't it time to start looking for the positives that are buried in all that negative stuff?

Example: I was mistreated when I was a child... ...and as a result, I learned to be a survivor and to resist all efforts to crush my spirit. Sure I had some hard times back then, but now, I'm both tough and sensitive. I didn't learn self esteem then, but I've learned it as an adult, and I understand people better for it.

Example: I was a latchkey kid... ...and everyone treated me like an abandoned orphan. But it was great. My dad and mom fought all the time, so coming home to a quiet house was a wonderful break, and I loved it.



See what I'm getting at here? 

You have the right to take any piece of your personal history and reinterpret it to your advantage rather than to your detriment. You can find ways to turn your past to your own good.

Studies have shown that many children who grow up insecure tend to be unusually self-reliant as adults.

You don't HAVE to be filled with resentment, anger or helplessness. You COULD choose to feel something more pleasant, at least part of the time. And if you did choose to feel better about yourself, what do you think the result might be?

Did you know this is what many of the most successful people do? If they have a terrible experience, they simply turn it this way and that till they find a new aspect to emphasize. One that makes them feel better about themselves. 

Don't believe me? Go read any great person's biography. It's almost a given that winners only become winners after overcoming huge difficulties. And they overcome because they keep trying, keep learning how to control their own thinking until they get good at it.

So if you've got anything -- ANYTHING AT ALL -- in your past that drags you down, angers you or depresses you, you have the right to look at it more closely. You can find more than garbage in your past. There's gold in your history, too. And all you've got to do is learn to look for it. 

Puerto Galera Travel Guide

The Philippines is a country gifted with great beaches. The better known beaches are those found in Boracay and Palawan. Another beach or resorts worth mentioning are those found on the Mindoro's northern part in the province of Oriental Mindoro. The place is called Puerto Galera. It is locate south of Manila (130 kilometers south) and 14 nautical miles from Batangas City.

You can go to Puerto Galera from Manila to Batangas using only land routes. When you arrive on Batangas, you would then need to ride a ferry to transport you. The ferry trip will be 1 to 2 hours long. 

You have two options to go to Puerto Galera, the cheaper way or the more expensive way. The more expensive way is generally a faster way to get there. The more expensive one will make you ride the MV Super 85 Ferry and Sikat and Bus Services. Riding them is more expensive because they have no stop-overs, board the passengers directly to the ferries and are coasters or vans that are provided by the company. 

The cheaper transportation is the way of the commuter buses of BLTB, JAM and TRITRAN which can be located at EDSA-Pasay, Taft Avenue near the corner of Gil Puyat Avenue, and Buendia, respectively. The bus fares will only range from P80 (non-air-conditioned) or P100 (air-conditioned). You will then ride a ferry to go to Puerto Galera and later on would need to hire an outrigger boat that ranges from P2, 000 per banca.



When you arrive at Puerto Galera, there are limitless activities to be done and places to go. You can go to the Hidden Valley, the Mangyan Village, the Muelle Bay and the Tammaraw waterfalls. The activities that can be done in Puerto Galera are kayaking and golfing to name a few. 

For people who are fascinated by the marine life Puerto Galera also offers a variety of dive sites. The following dive sites in Puerto Galera are the Coral Garden, The Pink Wall, the Hill, the Hole in the Wall, the Manila Channel, La Laguna Point, the Sabang point and wreck, the dungeon wall, the monkey beach, Ernie's cave, and many others. 

A person who goes to Puerto Galera can also find some nice souvenirs to bring home to. They can be able to get the handicrafts that are made by the Mangyan to bring home to their friends.

There are other interesting places to go to in the Philippines. Don't simply restrict yourself to the more popular ones. The less popular places can also provide you with a memorable experience. 



The Teachings of the Sunflowers and your Manifesting Success

The Law of Attraction has many faces and sparkling facets like a precious diamond. The Law of Attraction and Manifestation works all the time whether you are aware of it or not. Some can manifest whatever they want and desire in life, some unfortunately struggle all the time to meet ends and to keep up with ever increasing problems, worries and failures. It is so because the ones who succeed effortlessly are using the Universal Laws of Manifestation to their advantage and the others to their disadvantage. 

The secret to unlimited wealth in your life is to learn how to create deliberately what you desire and dream of in your life. Luckily, you have come to the right place to learn how to manifest success. How would you like to master the secrets of the Laws of manifestation and become a co-creator with the Universe? Would you like to see and experience your dearest and deepest dreams come true? Do you want to learn how to wish for something, smile and watch the life of your dreams simply unfold before your eyes?

If you said yes I want all of that, then read on and let all your senses, your heart, mind and soul learn from the sunflowers. I call this most amazing experience the " Manifestation Teachings of the Sunflowers"…

Because you know, sometimes the Universe has mysterious ways of teaching us lessons for our own good so that we learn how to use the Universal Laws with purpose, faith and get the kind of results that we had been only dreaming of in the past.

Years ago, I had a burning desire to have sunflowers in my garden and as I began to see tall and wonderful flowers in my mind's eye I bought seeds even though my gardening skills were not high in that time. Nevertheless, I trusted in nature and chose a nice patch under my window to plant the seeds for I wanted to see the flowers every morning.

In my great excitement I forgot the bag of seeds outside and the birds took their share out of it leaving but a small quantity. On the top of that, there were signs telling another story: some mysterious animal transported seeds away and lost some along the way to the garden's end.

Days went by and a feeling of excitement and expectancy spread in my heart and body until I could see the emerging little plants. My excitement knew no end and soon enough I contracted the habit of observing the young plants which grew relatively fast as we had a sunny and mild Spring. Things went well and I attached lots of hope to my sunflowers until their heads were so big that I expected them to bloom and open up their beautiful faces the next day. In that night I couldn't sleep well because I was impatient to see my flowers blooming; I could clearly hear it rain for hours.

Early in the morning, I went bare foot to the garden, so great was my impatience and imagine my surprise and disappointment when I discovered that what seemed to be a whole army of hungry snails climbed up to the flowers hearts and simply ate them. My frustration then equalled my previous excitement. The "flowers" were still standing tall but they would never bloom, I was devastated!

In the shock's aftermath, I decided I had to plant new seeds, which I did immediately while realizing at the same time that the problem was still there: the snails would return and eat up my efforts and joy or so I thought about it at the time. In a second, I declared war upon the nasty snails and did not leave any stone unturned until I found enough information on how to keep them away from my flowers.

The first solution I implemented gave poor results as they ate up the new young stems leaving five flowers, which I attempted to protect desperately.
The rain came more often during the night and I had no means of chasing them away from the growing flowers and yet by the effect of some miracle four flowers grew up to the point where the blooming was to be expected soon. I couldn't sleep at night, I had nightmares and although that might seem ridiculous now I didn't want anything eating up my efforts and great hopes.

In that day, a friend of mine came to my place and I told her about my snail problem. She laughed and gave me a special tip I didn't find anywhere else before. I used her suggestion immediately and hoped for the best over night as the rain was again strong, which is the ideal climate for snails to climb up the flower stems and eat the hearts.



It took ages for the morning to show up before I could finally go out and check out whether I still had any flowers. The scene I witnessed was quite dramatic: lots of snails met their end at the barrier I put between them and the flowers but some got past it obviously and ate up the flowers' hearts except for one!
I was upset but also grateful for the one flower that was left and it was the most beautiful sunflower I had ever seen. Well, in my eyes at least for it is as they say: " beauty is in the eye of the beholder".

Two days later the sunflowers in the neighbour's garden attracted my attention. My curiosity guided me through the unknown parts of my garden to where the beautiful and many sunflowers stood proud and tall under the warm sun rays that morning. Dew set on their brown and golden faces and made them glisten and glitter with a myriad of diamonds like tiny stars suspended in midair. I was in for a shock when I realized that the flowers were not in my neighbour's garden as I thought but in mine! In a corner I rarely visit or pay attention to because it had thick little bushes with thorns. It seemed that whatever animal that stole the sunflower seeds, it lost some of them in that very abandoned corner and there they were perfectly protected from the snails and anything else!

The Sunflowers Teachings: what can we learn about Manifestation?

I got my sunflowers in mysterious ways, nothing got lost after all and I learned through that delightful surprise that my strong desire to get beautiful sunflowers bore fruits even though my "fight" against the snails was not too successful. It did not happen where I thought it should happen but some weird circumstances and some mysterious bushes, I thought were the ugliest plants on earth, protected the seeds from the voracious snails and offered me plenty of sunflowers. After that incident my gardening skills improved and I learned to not dismiss anything based on its looks for it might be the one thing that has the potential to make something work perfectly and my dreams come true.

even though one wish didn't come true exactly the way you wanted it to be, there is always a great lesson from observing where and how it came true in a different way. So being open to possibilities that might be unknown to you at a time might lead you to your heart's desire in an easy and relaxed manner.

the weird incident was like a miracle to me and although I cannot explain it in a logical way, it made me aware of much greater laws and forces at work in the Universe. Let go and trust that what you want will come to you in ways that you could have never seen before. Be prepared for a delightful surprise.

I learned that I did rush into my decisions because my choice of the spot to plant the seeds was not the best. Moreover, after the first evidence that the snails seemed to like the spot where I planted the seeds, I should have taken a different approach and planted them somewhere else. Perhaps more drastic protection means would have helped. And as I come to think of it, many spots would have been a better way to go about it in the sense of gathering some practical experience about the good and less than good spots for the seeds. The stress and nightmares I suffered were unnecessary and I learned to be more relaxed when engaging in any experience. It certainly taught me to try on many spots and to take into account the results that occurred after that. The most touching discovery was that I got the flowers even though I did not have all the experience I needed to handle the "project" at the time.

And the greatest of all lessons was when I discovered that my neighbor planted a whole field of gorgeous sunflowers. My dream came true in so many ways that I was grateful for the whole experience. Where I worried much, my results were not too good and where I didn't expect anything I got more than I asked for. It truly pays off to observe where your manifesting efforts are blooming and do more of that…

Happy manifesting to you and go get your free e-book now!

Karima Begag 

Huwebes, Disyembre 30, 2010

Same old, and brand new, DVD talk!

The war is everywhere. Not the Iraq war, but the heated battle between the HD-DVD and the Blu-Ray formats. The rising interest in that war, though needed to steer the industry in the right direction in the near future, is causing the market to miss out on present opportunities, of less than ideally explored features of DVD products.

Without the war, the industry already boasts a vast pool of products to offer consumers. Thus, ink and space in this review will focus on those under-used functions of the DVD, especially the creative concept of DVD editing and morphing.

The search phrase of "DVD morpher" on Yahoo! returns 201 000 results, with the top 3 all on Avnex's product of DVD Player – Morpher. DVD morphing is not too new. However, probably not many of us know how to "morph" DVD, though few are unaware of DVD music and pictures. DVD morphing is a concept of creative self-exploration in the high-end world of the visibles and the audibles: users can not only enjoy unmatched picture and sound quality, but also enhance the displayed image as well as modify what they hear with special effects, all to their best imagination. The "morph" tools duly refresh the developed concept of a personal entertainment experience. And with products such as the AV DVD Player-Morpher Gold's 44 video and audio effects in various combinations, your experience could truly be personal. 

Currently, there should be 8 major players in this market, with various levels of products going for as low as $30. The more expensive packages are perhaps the most value-for-money, offering complete tools to define your DVD experience the way you wish to: the above-mentioned 44 cool effects and so much more of the AV Morpher could be yours for $99.95. Such low prices could lead to a boom in the number of "morphers", when users become more demanding of their players for features such as capturing crystal-clear digital images, converting those pictures into video format and recording and burning their own versions of movies



Little does an average movie lover know that he can now easily possess such powerful tools to personalize his favourite hits, as the 8 producers are continuously expanding their sales and distribution networks, expecting sales figures to sky-rocket as much as the DVD boom of the past 7 years. Packages are getting more and more complete; users could produce a fully personalized movie disc, from picture enhancement to audio modifications and even to label printing. Yes, these convenient DVD players are increasingly allowing you such level of personalization; you could get rid of the usually bare disc cover and have your family's pictures in the pack of Home Alone II. At the moment, however, it seems that few producers offer this cover creation feature, with the rare exception of Media Morpher.

In view of the attractive prices and packages, with possibilities to go "even lower and more complete in the future", according to industry gurus, the market is going to be poised to boom. The question is not when, but how much. This defining edge of the DVD industry could help continue the boom of the fast-growing consumer goods. So, it's time to get away from the tech-war between the over-mentioned Sony and Toshiba, and bring it on with the evolving products of the under-noticed Media Morpher and ULead Systems. 

Gift Giving Customs And Suggestions For Gifting To The Japanese

To the Japanese, gift giving is a way of communicating respect, friendship, and appreciation. When meeting with a Japanese colleague or visitor for the first time, always be prepared for the gift giving ritual that has been deeply rooted in the Japanese culture for centuries. 

The following are some guidelines to keep in mind when doing business with the Japanese: 

* Gifts need not be extravagant, although expensive gifts are not viewed as a bribe. 

* When meeting with a group of Japanese professionals, be sure to give higher quality gifts to those with more senior rank within the company. 

* Always wrap the gifts you present, but remember to avoid white and brightly colored wrapping paper. White symbolizes death and bright colors are too flashy. 

* Never surprise the Japanese recipient with your gift. Subtly alert the recipient that you would like to present a small memento. 

* When presenting a group gift, be sure to allow time for the entire group to gather before making the presentation. When meeting with a group of Japanese colleagues, either present a group gift or a gift to each individual within the organization. 

It is considered extremely rude to present a gift to one individual in a group, without giving gifts to the rest of the ensemble. 

* Downplay the importance of the gift. This is common in the Asian culture. It conveys the message that the relationship is more important than the gift 

* Always present the gift with two hands. This is also true with presenting business cards. 

* Avoid giving gifts in sets of four. The word "four" in Japanese is "shi," which is also associated with the word for death. 

* Gifts are normally exchanged at the end of the visit. 

* Avoid giving monetary gifts or gifts displaying company logos. 

* Be certain that gifts are of unquestionable quality. 

* Business gifts should be given at midyear (July 15) and at year-end (January 1). 

* Products that are difficult to obtain in Japan. This could be something not sold in Japan, or something that is extremely expensive. 

* Gifts that reflect the recipient's interests and tastes. 

* Pens are highly appropriate gifts for Japanese colleagues. First, the pen is a symbol of knowledge in the Japanese culture. Second, a pen is a lightweight gift that is easy to pack and carry when traveling abroad. 

Use the Law of Attraction to Manifest Outstanding Results

If you have gone about your life feeling frustrated, angry and stuck you can transform this lower feelings and move into an outrageous state of joy and hopefulness and begin to attract greater circumstances. 

The law of attraction states that like attracts like. That simply means if you are feeling stuck and hopeless you will continue to attract more circumstances that bring about hopelessness. 

One of the fastest ways to get the law of attraction to work for you is to take a period of time and do nothing more than find the things which bring you outrageous joy. Forget about wanting a new car or more money. Focus most on being joyful. 

1) Make a list of all the things which make you completely happy. Then go out and do it. See if you can fill an entire week of your free time with activities that are fun and emotionally rewarding to you. 

2) Get a journal – Every night before bed write out your feels about the way you spent your day. Make a point to express how you felt. Your feelings are extremely important because they inform the law of attraction as to your present vibration. 

3) Each day search out activities that you may have wished to try but never got around to doing them. The more new and fun activities that you engage in the more expanded you will feel. You will naturally move into a higher more expanded state. New activities open up your inner being much more than activities that you have become too familiar with. When you are in a new environment you easily move into a more aware and open state. 



By the end of the week you will be a change in your own personal energy. Now you can begin to think more about what you would like to manifest in your life. Be clear about your desire and allow the law of attraction to go to work to do wonders in brining about your desires. 

To best apply the law of attraction you should be in a state of joy and openness. As you go through your daily activities you may not be aware of it but you do shut down. Everything becomes routine and you easily hold on to old thought patterns. 

As you change your routine and open up you begin to see some amazing changes and your ability to master the law of attraction techniques will be greatly enhanced. 

How to Become an 'Enlightened' Millionaire

We learn it in kindergarten: You should always share. But somehow, on the way to adulthood, we lose our desire to share, especially when it comes to money.

When there is an abundance of anything, sharing is not an issue and a rich person is one who has more than enough. We want to get you started on having more than enough money by providing the tools and a path (our system) that can help you achieve your financial goals. Our desire is to provide you with solid building blocks for the abundant life that you were meant to have. When it happens to you, we believe you will naturally want to share with others.

When you share your wealth, you are acting like a honeybee, whose primary objective is to obtain nectar to make honey. While in the process of going after the nectar, the honeybee is actually involved in a much larger purpose, cross-pollinating the rooted botanicals. This cross-pollination, or sharing, is far more important than making honey because it results in a beautiful, bountiful garden.

By sharing your wealth, both in knowledge and in cash, you 

become an enlightened millionaire. Like the honeybee, you can actually affect positive change in the world for the benefit of all humankind.

So how do you begin building wealth? Our best-selling book, "The One Minute Millionaire: The Enlightened Way to Wealth," will start you on your way to having more than enough money so you can give back and help others succeed along with you. It will teach you to:

* Create wealth, even when you have little or nothing to start with.

* Use the power of leverage to build wealth rapidly.

* Overcome fears so you can take reasonable risks.

* Use "one-minute" habits to build wealth over the long term.

The One Minute Millionaire is a revolutionary approach to building wealth and a powerful program for self discovery as well. 

The Good, The Bad, And The Ugly Holiday Gifts

Everyone is searching for the perfect gift; however, sometimes, that goes terribly, terribly wrong. Here are some of the best and worst holiday gift ideas.

Good: Giving your mother a gift certificate for a spa is a good gift idea.

Bad: A gift certificate for gym is a bad gift idea.

Ugly: Giving your mother the same crappy gift she gave you last year will get you in BIG trouble!

Reasoning: You should not recycle gifts, because at some point, you may get caught! Not only did the gift obviously lack allure or you would have used it, but you should put more effort into getting things for other people. 

Good: If your husband plays golf, buying a set of clubs may be a great idea.

Bad: Buying your husband a vacuum would probably be less impressive.

Ugly: The Flat-D Underwear Fart Filter (yes, there is such a product) is a horrible gift idea, regardless of how useful it may be!

Reasoning: The holidays are not a time to address personal issues, especially not embarrassing ones. Keep your opinions to yourself. If there is a product you think your loved one should know about, mention it some other time. Likewise, hygiene products are bad gift ideas.

Good: Buying your wife a beautiful diamond ring is a wonderful idea!

Bad: Vacuum: still a bad idea, as is cookware, iron/ironing board, or any other product used in the service of others.

Ugly: Buying your wife a ring with your girlfriend's name engraved in it will get you spending New Year's with only half of your stuff!



Reasoning: Okay, the girlfriend thing is obvious, but people make the mistake of buying vacuums or other household paraphernalia as gifts all the time. You should give your wife something she can enjoy for herself and that lets her know that she is more than the cook or the maid.

Good: Buying your boss a gift certificate to a nice clothing store will get you another year of employment.

Bad: However, buying "Lies and the Lying Liars That Tell Them" when your boss is a conservative Republican ... you should probably start printing out your resume.

Ugly: Tongue Scraper ... enough said.

Reasoning: Purchasing a gift that is politically or religiously based, or that is otherwise established on a certain belief system, is a bad idea unless you know the person feels a certain way about that subject. If you are unsure, buy something else!

Good: An engagement ring for your girlfriend of 5 years that wants to get married will provide a joyous occasion.

Bad: An engagement ring for your girlfriend that does not want to get married will make for an uncomfortable Christmas dinner.

Ugly: Giving your girlfriend a McDonald's gift certificate when she was expecting an engagement ring ... you can imagine how well that will go over.

Reasoning: Do not give "obligation gifts" for Christmas, especially if you do not know if they will be a welcomed surprise. 

Simple Weight Loss Tips

Sometimes weight loss can be a whole lot easier than most people believe. Rather than trying to maintain a strict diet regime, the person trying to lose weight should just make small adjustments to their lifestyle rather than a dramatic change that will ultimately result in failure.

The simple process of drinking an additional glass of water each day, or a short walk around the block once or twice a week will ease the body into the changes that are required for weight loss.

Another wise move is to stay away from the bathroom scales for a week or two, so the weight loss process doesn't become an all-encompassing ordeal that needs to be measured every day of the week.

By leaving the weigh-in times a little longer apart there is more chance that they will show a reduction in weight, whereas daily weigh-ins can fluctuate depending on the time of day and various other factors.

Even a small reduction in food intake can have a dramatic effect on bodyweight over a period of time. Alternatively, a change from one food to another can also have a huge effect on weight loss. A simple example of this would be to substitute a food high in carbohydrates with an equal quantity of food that is lower in carbohydrates and higher in protein. This change alone will help to reduce body fat and it will also help to eliminate hunger pangs.

Now consider the effect that a few extra glasses of water each day will have when combined with a walk around the block a couple of times a week and a change in foods from high carbohydrates to high protein. When you combine all three changes they can have a really dramatic effect on fat reduction over a period of time with little or no stress and emotional strain on the person losing the weight.

People who follow this method of weight loss are more likely to maintain such a program for a lot longer, and it is this constant change that ensures success, unlike the fad diets that people try off and on throughout their life. 

Hunter (Season 2) DVD Review

Recipient of 3 Emmy nominations, Hunter is widely considered one of the premiere action/detective dramas of its time. Much like Tom Selleck's Magnum, P.I., Fred Dryer's Hunter had a knack for attracting a TV audience to his unique persona, an onscreen charisma that carried an otherwise so-so series through a nine-season run. Created by Frank Lupo, brains behind the smash hit The A-Team (1982) and writer for the hit series Battlestar Galactica (1978), Magnum, P.I. (1980), and Walker, Texas Ranger (1993), Hunter is constructed on the overused concept of a maverick police officer who breaks the rules, but never gets fired because he's so good. Despite its formulaic approach, Hunter is pure entertainment for all those who love 1980s action dramas...

The Hunter (Season 2) DVD features a number of action-packed episodes including the season premiere "Case X" in which Dee Dee goes undercover as a prospective model when a modeling agent's clients start turning up dead. When Hunter and Dee Dee discover that the modeling agent is sending his clients to a photographer who specializes in filming porn, the two get closer to discovering the true identity of the murderer… Other notable episodes from Season 2 include "The Big Fall" in which Hunter and Dee Dee must discover the identity of the murderer who killed the star witness under their protection or else risk being pinned with the rap themselves, and "Death Machine" in which Hunter and Dee Dee must investigate a series of underworld murders ordered by a jewel smuggler who was ripped off for over two million dollars by a pair of petty burglars.



Below is a list of episodes included on the Hunter (Season 2) DVD:

Episode 21 (Case X) Air Date: 09-21-1985
Episode 22 (Night of the Dragons) Air Date: 09-28-1985
Episode 23 (The Biggest Man in Town) Air Date: 10-05-1985
Episode 24 (Rich Girl) Air Date: 10-19-1985
Episode 25 (Killer in a Halloween Mask) Air Date: 10-26-1985
Episode 26 (Rape and Revenge: Part 1) Air Date: 11-02-1985
Episode 27 (Rape and Revenge: Part 2) Air Date: 11-09-1985
Episode 28 (Million Dollar Misunderstanding) Air Date: 11-16-1985
Episode 29 (The Big Fall) Air Date: 11-23-1985
Episode 30 (Waiting for Mr. Wrong) Air Date: 12-07-1985
Episode 31 (Think Blue) Air Date: 12-14-1985
Episode 32 (Blow-up) Air Date: 01-04-1986
Episode 33 (War Zone) Air Date: 01-11-1986
Episode 34 (Burned) Air Date: 01-18-1986
Episode 35 (Scrap Metal) Air Date: 02-01-1986
Episode 36 (Fagin 1986) Air Date: 02-08-1986
Episode 37 (62 Hrs. of Terror) Air Date: 02-15-1986
Episode 38 (Death Machine) Air Date: 03-11-1986
Episode 39 (The Setup) Air Date: 03-25-1986
Episode 40 (The Beautiful & the Dead: Part 1) Air Date: 04-01-1986
Episode 41 (The Beautiful & the Dead: Part 2) Air Date: 04-08-1986
Episode 42 (The Return of Typhoon Thompson) Air Date: 05-06-1986
Episode 43 (Saturday Night Special) Air Date: 05-20-1986 

The Perfect Christmas Gift

I suppose there is no such thing as the imperfect Christmas gift, but I am sure that there are some gifts that are less desirably received than others. 

Let's take a look at the "Personal Trimmer." Every time I hear of one of these items or see it in the store I think, "nose hair trimmer." Hey, there is no way of getting around it: if you give this gift you are telling the recipient that the strand of hair hanging out of their left nostril is unsightly. Or, since the product is also marketed for the ears, you've noticed a bit 'o fuzz on their earlobes. 

One way to test the wisdom of gift selection is by doing this: imagine your loved one at work hanging around the water cooler. "Bob" comes up and says, "so, what did you get for Christmas?" Your loved one replies, "I got slippers, some shirts, a tool case, and a really cool personal trimmer." Sure, like he is going to share this information with blabbermouth Bob, who is known to share "news" throughout the office. You get the picture: if he is ashamed of the gift he'll lie and say, "a one year subscription to Sports Illustrated" or some other tale. Never encourage your loved ones to lie!

For the ladies, you must always be careful what you buy for them. Us menfolk are at a disadvantage: we're wired to think practical while women are wired to think sentimental. Exercise equipment might be smart, but like the fella in the Best Buy television ad who purchased exercise equipment for his sweetheart, you don't want your wife to assume that you think that she is fat. In case you make that error, you must think fast and say, "no babe, I just want to keep you heart healthy so I have many more Christmas' with you!"

Unfortunately, men don't always think that fast. Better yet, if your wife tells you what she wants, get her that. You can always run over to Victoria's Secret later to purchase lingerie which she'll like because you like seeing her wearing it. Trust me!



Are you going to the neighbor's for a Christmas social? Then leave the Royal Dansk cookies at home. Better yet, don't buy them. Are they awful? No. Just too common. Like the unwanted fruitcake that gets passed around the family and neighborhood year after year the Royal Dansk cookie tin is getting the same reputation. If tasked with the responsibility of bringing a dessert and you aren't baking, pick something up at the local bakery. It'll be fresh and it will be eaten. Let them worry about their cholesterol level.

What should you buy the boss? Well, the standard gifts over the years have been wine or hard liquor, something for his desk [photo frame], or a personal item like a fold up umbrella. Boring! Rather, have some fun and purchase spyware for your boss so that he can spend the time snooping on his employee's internet access. See if that wins you valuable points during review or promotion time!

Seriously, maybe the whole gift thing has gotten a little bit out of line. Maybe we should think of more practical gifts to give such as: spending time with an elderly relative; volunteering to help coach your child's soccer team; or by making a cash donation to a relief agency in the gift recipient's name. 

Two thousand years ago the greatest gift ever given, Jesus, was freely given to mankind; I believe anyone freely receiving His love is receiving that very same gift. Jesus is one gift that perfectly suits mankind: God's boundless love and unrestricted forgiveness.

This article originally appeared on Townstead.com, a defunct site managed by Matt Keegan. It was part of his "Life in New Jersey" series of articles. 

One Of Cancun's Best

It's hard to believe that a short 30-mile bus ride from the Spring-break haven of Cancun is one of the top-ranked hotels in Central America and an exotic, unrivaled tropical paradise. While it sounds like typical romance copy, we're not just giving lip service ...the Mayan Riviera is not your standard Mexican vacation destination nor is Maroma Resort a regular lodging establishment, having recently received the Conde Nast Travel Magazine Reader's Choice Award as the #3 hotel in all of Central America. The local culture and natural resources are just some of the attractions that separate Riviera Maya from other popular destinations in Central America. For starters, the second largest barrier reef in the world is located here, providing unsurpassed water activities like snorkeling, wind-surfing, kayaking, sailing, diving, bottom fishing, deep sea and fly fishing. The unspoiled beach offers guests the utmost in privacy and unparalleled natural beauty.

Maroma Resort is a showcase for unique arts and crafts produced in each region of Mexico, including statues, hand-painted bathroom tiles, hand-loomed natural cotton bedspreads, and decorative pillows and throws and soft wool rugs. The rooms and public areas feature original art by Mexican and International artists and each room also has its own special objects. Maroma has 58 rooms and suites situated among lush gardens, cooled and shaded by coconut palms on one side, open to the warmth of the sun and sea on the other.

Relax in a king-sized bed, luxury bath with sunken tub, sparkling pool, or beachfront Jacuzzi-you decide what to do indulge in first. Afterward, let any remaining troubles melt away in the spa, where you can choose between massage, reflexology, Reiki, craniofacial, facials, whole-body treatments, mud, aromas, Ajurveda, yoga, meditation, rebirthing, crystal therapy, and the ancient art of the temazcal-the purifying and healing ritual of the Mayan steam bath.

While you'll feel a world away from unnatural office lighting, congested freeways and the demands of everyday life, you have the choice of staying connected to the modern world. Maroma?s multi-media theater features a state-of-the-art sound and projection system with over 380 movies to choose from. 

Online Sex Games

They can also come in the form of variation of conventional online games such as card games with a sexual twist. There are multiplayer games or games that can be played with a computer generated character. It can be in a controlled setting with a theme or a very open-ended type game. There is something for everyone as games are made for persons of various sexual orientations, even bisexuals. No matter the type of game, there is fun to be had by adults using online sex games. 

Online sex games are available with varied levels of interaction. They can be as as you want or can be require very little input from the player, consisting more of video-type content. Virtual characters can be personalized and selecting what they look like and wear, the types of activities they engage in, what they say or the situations they find themselves in. Online sex games can also involve actual interaction with real persons versus playing against the computer. This can involves typed interaction or actual spoken and visual interaction using microphones and webcams. It is the new way to meet and date persons while attaining the optional, additional benefits. Men can enjoy instantaneous sex if they want and women can take it slower if thats what they wish to do, vice versa. 

Some games allow you to access and update your virtual avatar in the online adult game on a continuous basis. Online adult games can be testing grounds for the real world. Although online adult games in no way replace other social mediums persons may use these interactions to build confidence or to compensate for temporary periods of loneliness. Characters in the realm of online gaming can project a stable environment in which gamers can feel safe, satisfied and in control. The realm of online sex games is so varied that there is something to suit every type of individual or need. The number of games and features keeps growing to satisfy the wishes of gamers worldwide.


Playing an online sex game does not indicate that one is sex deprived or a sex freak. Rather, in many cases it is simply used to spice up or complement an active sex life. These games can be used as a facilitator for cybersex among couples in a long distance relationship, for example. It can also be used as a medium through which fantasies that they are too shy to enact in real life can be acted out via the internet. It can be a couple's activity used to bring the two together in an intimate way. On the other hand, it can also be an anonymous and discreet way for persons to interact sexually with strangers, or new acquaintances. Online sex games are made for adults to enjoy with each other can are very different from childish games. The aim is for the participants to have fun in an adult way, responsible but exciting way. 

Granite tile basics

If you want to know all about granite including the basics, key characteristics and the processing manner, this article will prove to be quite informative for you. 

Granite is a natural stone that looks extremely beautiful and provides ultimate alternative for interior and exterior decoration. The stone is beautiful to look at and practical to use. People love to install it due to its durability and classy look. 

When it comes to the origins of this stone, you would be surprised to know that granite is formed deep inside the earth due to the extreme heat and pressure applied by the atmosphere over thousands of years. The stone can be defined as an igneous rock formed due to the pressure applied to liquid magma between other layers of rock. Thereafter it cools and forms a layer of its' own. 

The rock is amalgamated with different elements such as feldspar, mica and quartz. The process of cooling process is very slow. The suspended mineral elements inside the magma result into the crystalline look of granite. Granite is hard in nature due to the harsh origins and lengthy process that suspends several stabilizing elements within it. You can vouch for the durability of this stone. 

As soon as the raw granite is removed from its bed, the first stage of granite processing starts and the stage is known as cutting. Here, the large portions of granite into manageable blocks. Thereafter, these blocks of granite are cut to size so as to utilize them as slabs and tiles with the help of wire saws treated with different types of durable abrasives such as sand, diamond and aluminum oxide.



High pressure water jets are also used to cut the granite in tandem with traditional wire saws. As soon as the process of cutting is accomplished, the stone undergoes three more processes that make them look like tile flooring or countertop slabs. The stone is polished on one side, calibrated and gauged. 

Once the processes are over, the stones are ready to be used as tiles and slabs. Most commonly these tiles are used as kitchen installation and outdoor installation. The leftover granite tiles are used as cutting boards, coasters and fireplace surrounds. 

If you want to care the granite tile flooring and countertops, the process is very simple. The stone is heat-resistant and works as worry-free countertop solution. You can use hot pots and plates on the surface of this stone directly. The granite tile is durable. However, it still requires your attention. You should consider the application of an appropriate sealant seriously. Consult a specialist to determine the variety of granite tile you want to install. The sealant acts as a protective coat for your granite tile. It protects the tile from moisture. You can purchase different types of cleaners and polishes to keep your granite tile free of dirt and scratch. 

Do you want to achieve fulfilment, success and true hapiness?

Are you in control of your destiny?

As you are reading these words, you may be thinking about and looking for a way to improve your sense of fulfilment, success and true happiness in your life. 

It seems that some people nearly always attain success in relationships, business and personal fulfilment, while others in similar circumstances may do well, but never seem to reach the higher levels. 

We often say they are "lucky" but I suggest that luck has nothing to do with it. 

What does have everything to do with it are the following six factors. 

They are the areas which every one of us need to improve in order to attain personal fulfilment, success and happiness. Which of these would you wish to improve? 

1. Self-image. 
Your beliefs about your self affect how you feel and how you appear to others. Your self-confidence and self-worth are the result of your self-image. 

2. Self Control.
The true fact is that either you control your life or you are controlled by it. 

3. Creativity. 
In its broadest sense it is the artist and the scientist within you, who solves your problems and brings new ideas.

4. Cooperation.
No man is an island, and the successful person will be expert at communication skills, persuading and encouraging others to make his own and their shared goals come true. 

5. Planning.
It is said, that "If you don't know where you are going, you'll end up somewhere else". If someone doesn't have clear and focused goals, they cannot complain if the "somewhere else" is not to their liking.

6. Concentration.
Willingness to get going, concentrated effort, persistence and resilience in the face of obstacles - all are crucial to success in achieving life goals. 

Online Casinos: List of the Most Graphic

Online casinos are plenty and they differ when it comes to the amount of games, customer service, free cash they hand out and many other features that pertain to the legally binding contract between the player and the casino. But there are other features that are usually ignored by those reviewing the many online casinos available online, and it is precisely one of these features: the graphic quality of the site, that we have examined. 

Want to play online games and have a great time? Play at these graphically enhanced online casinos: 

1) Golden Casino 
Offering new casino software and a bonus of 555 dollars would be enough to want me to play there, but once I downloaded the game system, I gasped. The layout of their hall reminds me of that of Caesars Palace, and once, you start playing (with life-like images) you fell as if you were standing in a real casino! And, as if that was not enough, the tables are covered with a lace-like surface that increases the casino ambience and takes it to another level completely. In addition, Golden Casino is loosely affiliated with some of the top names in the casino industry today such as Golden Palace and others. 

2) Crystal Palace 
Striking because of its blue contours and curves, Crystal Palace not only offers a graphic display that reminds you of a desert oasis or a car rally, but it also uses a correct and colourful combination of colours in order to create the total graphic experience. It is not enough that their games are fast, flash-oriented and versatile, each one can be played using different graphic displays and settings thus boggling the mind with peace that helps you concentrate solely on the game you are playing. They are one of the major slot machine initiators, and their slots are perfectly matched between a light and slot experience.



3) Club USA Casino 
Appearing at first hazy and blurry with a tinge of dark green, you will not even hope for what comes next. Once you download the games, sign up and login, please keep your mouth closed. They give you seven hundred dollars for the chance of floating through casino space. In addition, their graphic display is set up in such a way that each block supersedes the one that came before it, thus, creating a window-like graphic view where each object stands out more than the one behind it. 

4) Royal Vegas Casino 
Vegas online has come alive. Yes. That is what you feel when you start playing through this online casino. The lights are real, the machines too and if that was not enough, the graphics are unbelievably custom-made for those who have been to Las Vegas. The strip is just as it would appear if you were standing at the corner. 

5) Roxy Palace 
Designed to copy the feel of a casino entrance with its huge amount of lights and neons, Roxy Palace takes another step forward when it comes to the graphic game display that they offer. Each game has a different ambience, and the graphics are so clear and well-defined that you can even make out the writing on the billboards. 

Conclusion: 
When I want to play at online casinos I look out for those online casinos that offer a high graphic interface. And each of the above online casinos are graphically designed to ensure you enjoy a great online casinos experience. Pick one of them and enjoy your online gaming experience. 

Speech Therapy For Children Who Stutter

Do you have a stutter? Does one of your children have a stutter? Do you know somebody who has a stutter? This article is all about the speech impediment known as stuttering or stammering. It includes information about stuttering and also treatments which are available to help people who stutter to achieve fluency.

Stuttering is a much larger problem than many people think. Latest research suggests that as many as one percent of the population of the UK has a stuttering problem and that around eighty percent of these people are male.

I had a stutter for eighteen years. I have been informed that I started stuttering when I was only four years of age. I regularly attended speech therapy over the next fourteen years before deciding that it was unlikely to ever help me to achieve fluency.

The stutter was one huge frustration for me as at times I could talk very well. Certain situations such as when I felt under pressure or when I was very tired, was when speaking fluently became very hard for me. I had a number of words which I believed that I was unable to say and would often fear these type of sounds. I would go to great lengths to avoid having to say them, which was not that easy at times.

Some people I have met have become extremely good at hiding their own stutter. They have stated that most of the people that they know are not even aware that they have a speech impediment.

Other people are not able to hide their stutter in this way and will have what is perceived to be a much more severe stutter.



There are a number of treatments for stuttering including the normal route of speech therapy via the local doctor or hospital. Many people who stutter find this form of therapy very frustrating as there are often long waiting lists, and the sessions are normally quite short and irregular.

There is also private therapy in the form of people who have managed to overcome their own stutter. This can be on a one-to-one basis or in a group situation.

Other people attempt to seek help via hypnotherapy or confidence based courses.

I managed to overcome my own stutter after a lot of hard work and practice. It was not easy by any stretch of the imagination, however the results have totally transformed my life. I have now enjoyed speaking fluently for the last ten years.

I have met many people who stutter in that time and have been amazed to hear some of the stories of how they started to stutter. Contrary to popular belief it does not just originate in childhood but can start at any age. A traumatic event can at times trigger the start of a stutter problem in people as can certain forms of abuse.

If you have a stutter do not despair, help is available and fluency can be achieved if you have the right attitude and are willing to work hard to kill off your stuttering demons. 

How does an online university course work?

Any online university course has a few prerequisites like a computer, a phone connection, and an Internet Service Provider. With these basics in place, any student anywhere in the world can enroll for the programs being offered by an online university. 

After enrolling you will typically be given easy-to-use Internet access software to facilitate quick and smooth retrieval of lectures, questions, and assignments. Since there are no time schedules and frames, the instruction material can be downloaded anytime and reviewed offline at your convenience. 

Online research libraries and services are available from the university to cater to the students' research requirements. The programs are designed to fit in interaction with other students and professionals from the field. This helps the students enrich their assignments before they discuss it in an academic environment with their instructors. Instructors also guide the students through the courses to avoid any learning hitches. 

Although this multi-interaction offline scenario enriches the student's learning experience, the spontaneous classroom scenario is missing in an online course. For some students, the class interaction could be more invigorating than learning online. 

However, an online program offers you almost unlimited flexibility. Each course is completed over five to six weeks and students can take breaks between courses. Since the interaction is asynchronous, as in email messages, there are no schedules or fixed timings for classes either. A student doesn't have to rush from work to meet a class time. Whereas this could also serve as a demotivator for certain students who perform better under strict schedules and timetables, it is advantageous for people with hectic work environments, and for people who can exert self-discipline in setting an effective timetable.



Teenage Depression

Many people believe today that teenagers lack respect for authority, lack respect for school, and even lack respect for family. For the most part they are looked down on by society as being disobedient trouble-makers. Being a teenager isn't an easy task. They're constantly being exposed to new, scary situations, and it's hard for any teenager to overcome one of these obstacles because of how they are looked at by other people, and one of the biggest problems a teenager has to face is depression.

About 5% of teenagers suffer from severe depression. More often than not they have a very hard home life usually consisting of depressed parents or abusive siblings. Teens who are under a lot of stress, or suffer from anxiety and learning problems, are at higher risk for depression. Highschool is the leading cause of stress in a teenagers life, and parents need to take that into consideration. Instead of making your kids do homework you need to help your kids do homework. Another thing teenagers are exposed to is drinking and drug usage. If you catch your kid drinking alcohol or smoking pot there are many things you can do besides yelling at them and grounding them. Try to explain to them what happens when people drink and drive. Talk to them about your life experiences with drinking and drugs. Or you can even negotiate with them and tell them they can drink if they do it within the household. Anything is better than just yelling at them and leaving them alone, because chances are they will go out and do it again. Drinking is a sign that your teenager may be depressed, so you also need to realize yelling at them will not solve the problem. There are also many other signs to watch for if your teenager is suffering from depression:

Sudden loss of interest in doing activities they once enjoyed
Little to no energy. Sleeps a lot
Increased anger and hostility
Self-Injury, which may lead to suicide attempts
Poor concentration in home or at school
Persistent boredom

You're probably wondering what you should do if your teenager is depressed. The first step is to seek professional help. You might think because your the parent it would be best for you to help your child out, but the truth is you need to find real professionals to help your teenager through their depression. Unless you're a certified therapist, I wouldn't recommend you taking the responsibility to help your kid's depression. You can support your child, and talk to them frequently, but don't try to cure them. Also be aware of the many types of medicines out on the market for depression. If a therapist suggests a certain type of pill for your teenager, look it up on the internet and find out all of the information you can on the medicine. There are many types of pills that have very bad side effects, and you as the parent need to make sure what you think is appropiate for your child. Remember, the therapist only suggests these pills, you need to make sure if it's the best route to take. Also keep in mind that if your kid suffers from any kind of medical disorder, you let your therapist know before your teenager takes any kind of medicine, and let your doctor know what the therapist is wanting to prescribe them.


Before I bring this article to a close I'd just like to give my final thoughts. Teenagers are people just like anyone else, and they're dealt many hard cards in life. You were a teenager once, so you should know what it's like. It's one of the hardest parts of your life. If you give your child the love and care that they need, they can get through their depression and make it out of highschool just fine. Punishment is something you should do while the child is young, once they become adolescent you need to start talking to them more about personal things and helping them along the way, not punishing them. There are more good teenagers out there than bad, people just don't pay enough attention to find out. The problem with the world isn't teenagers, it's the people who aren't giving teenagers the chance they deserve who are the problem.

Dr V’s Enduring Vision

Half of India’s ten million blind people could see again if they had cataract surgery. Govindappa Venkataswamy devoted his life to combat this needless suffering. With the help of his family he created a remarkable eye facility that not only treats poor people for free but is a model of compassion and quality. More eye surgeries are performed here than at any other eye hospital in the world.




Dr P Namperumalsamy glares at his computer, his annoyance mounting. Former President APJ Abdul Kalam is to inaugurate a new building of Madurai’s Aravind Eye Care System (AECS) in a couple of weeks, and Namperumalsamy, Aravind’s chairman, is having problems working out Kalam’s schedule. “Dr Kalam is an easy man to satisfy,” the 68-year-old chairman mutters. “But the bureaucrats create all kinds of hurdles.”
Meanwhile, in Berlin for a trade fair, N Vishnu Prasad, 37, the international marketing manager of Aravind’s ophthalmic products, is getting ready to meet his Iranian agent. It promises to be a fruitful get-together – Aravind’s business has been booming in Iran, and there’s a good chance that the government will buy its high-quality intra-ocular lenses.
Around the same time in Madurai, 74-year-old G Srinivasan, Aravind’s finance director, is going through a stack of reports and letters. He spots a cheque for Rs15 lakhs ($33,450), a donation to Aravind from Indian Overseas Bank. State Bank of India has promised Rs40 lakhs ($86,550). Not bad for an organisation that does no fundraising.
In an operation theatre one level above Srinivasan, ophthalmic surgeon N. Venkatesh Prajna, 42, is having problems with a nervous patient. Although Prajna repeatedly tells him to keep his eye still, the man keeps looking around. When the operation is over, A Saravana Kumar, a Madurai ophthalmologist who’s come to the centre to pick up surgical tips from Prajna, compliments him on his finesse.
Later that morning, about 70 kilometres from Madurai, at the Aravind Eye Hospital in Theni, Dr Sathya T Ravilla examines an elderly man’s eyes. Sathya, age 24 and due to get married soon, is a junior doctor at Theni. She’s been there only a couple of weeks, but already feels very much at home.
An ordinary day at Aravind, but there’s nothing ordinary about Aravind. A non-profit organisation with the mission of eradicating needless blindness, it is so efficient that it generates enough money from its paying patients to treat a million poor people, including more than 100,000 afflicted by cataracts, for free every year. Indeed, more eye surgeries are performed at Aravind than at any other eye hospital in the world.
Aravind’s treatment and teaching standards are so high that doctors from around the globe, including from top American medical colleges, regularly go there for training. It has won innumerable accolades, the latest being last year’s $1 million Gates Award for Global Health, the world’s most valuable prize in its genre.
But perhaps the most extraordinary fact about the AECS is that it is the creation of a remarkably tight-knit family (to which the people mentioned above all belong), led for more than three decades by Govindappa “Dr V” Venkataswamy, a charismatic bachelor who was both saint and slave-driver. And although the patriarch passed away several years ago, his legacy continues to flourish, with his grandnephews and grandnieces now committing themselves to the cause.
Dr Venkataswamy had two lifelong passions – his family and his work - and he used each for the benefit of the other. Born into a Telugu-speaking farming family which had been in Tamil Nadu for centuries, he was the eldest of five children. His village didn’t have a school, and the young Venkataswamy learnt to write by spreading sand on the floor and using his fingers to shape characters.
Although his father wanted him to be a lawyer, Dr V studied medicine in Madras. Then, after three of his cousins died during their pregnancies, he decided to specialise in obstetrics. But in 1947, when he was 29, severe arthritis confined him to bed for a year and left his fingers permanently twisted. Indeed, he was never again to be free from pain.
Forced to change specialities, he chose ophthalmology. Those days ophthalmology was considered a minor speciality and Dr V prepared himself for a quiet life prescribing spectacles. But that was not to be. As he went deeper into the field he saw how widespread needless blindness was and began training his gnarled hands to hold scalpels and needles and perform cataract surgery. Within a few years he could stand for a whole day and do more than a hundred operations at a stretch. In 1956 he joined Madurai’s government-run hospital and medical college as head of the ophthalmology department. By the time he retired in 1976, he’d made it one of India’s best.
From 1961, Dr V started organising government-sponsored free cataract surgery eye camps in rural Tamil Nadu. They were so successful that he was awarded a Padma Shri in 1973. His dream after retirement was to establish a base hospital in Madurai with the state government’s help and accelerate the fight against preventable blindness in villages. He was allotted an acre of land, but following a change of government, the order was cancelled.
A deeply spiritual man, Dr V was a devotee of Sri Aurobindo and believed that if you worked in the right spirit, a divine force would empower you to accomplish great things. But now, disheartened, he considered retiring to the sage’s Pondicherry ashram. Within a month, though, he was bored – he needed to keep busy.
But how? Discussing options with his family, he settled on starting an eye clinic in Madurai. It would be run as a business, but quality care would be provided at reasonable rates.
He envisioned a family practice – assisted by one of his sisters, G Natchiar, and her husband, P Namperumalsamy, both experienced eye doctors then in their mid 30s. In addition, there would be Namperumalsamy’s sister, Vijayalakshmi, who’d just finished specialising in ophthalmology, and her husband M Srinivasan who was studying for a diploma in the subject. Actually, Srinivasan, who’d married into the family the previous year, had been keen on anaesthesia, but Dr V had persuaded him to switch.
The clinic would be set up in a house owned by Dr V’s brother, G Srinivasan, an engineer who owned a construction firm. Srinivasan would look after business matters and his wife, Lalitha, would supervise the clinic’s housekeeping.
In fact, when the 11-bed Aravind Eye Clinic – named after Aurobindo – opened in April 1976, Vijayalakshmi was its only full-time doctor.
Drs Natchiar and Namperumal-samy were undergoing specialised training in the US; Dr V still had six months to go before retirement; and Dr Srinivasan had to spend most of his day studying.
Since both Drs V and Srinivasan had to be at the government hospital by 7 am, work at the Aravind clinic began early. “Our morning alarm to get up and get ready was the coffee Dr V’s sister Janaky, who lived next door, sent us at 4.30,” Vijayalakshmi says. “We’d start our first case at 5.15.”
Dr V’s reputation, though, ensured an ever-growing clientele, and within a year a 30-bed annexe had to be built. Meanwhile, several charitable organisations were pleading with Dr V to start free cataract eye camps in rural Tamil Nadu.
Aravind Eye Clinic clearly had to expand. On the advice of a Ramakrishna Mission monk he was close to, Dr V, along with his siblings, formed a charitable trust. Then he, his brother Srinivasan, and both their sisters mortgaged their homes and got a Rs7 lakh loan from the State Bank of India to construct a proper hospital. Rural eye camps began to be organised, and in 1978, a godown belonging to Srinivasan was renovated and poor patients treated for free.
Meanwhile, in the US, Dr Natchiar was having second thoughts about returning to Madurai. “We could have stayed back in the US and made money,” she recalls. But Dr V and she were very close. He had raised her ever since their father had died when she was eight, and as she grew older, she in turn had looked after him. Dr V had nursed her through seven operations to correct a defect in her foot, taught her ophthalmology, arranged her marriage. How could she turn her back on him? She and her husband, Dr Namperumalsamy (popularly known as Dr Nam), flew back home.
“Those early years were very difficult,” admits Dr Nam. “Dr V took no salary at all – he said his government pension was more than enough for a bachelor – and he paid us around Rs1500 a month, less than half what we could have earned outside Aravind. And because Dr V was such a strict taskmaster, we had to work twice as hard.”
Since Drs Natchiar and Vijayalakshmi were always at the hospital, Dr V’s sister Janaky, stepped in to help. A warm, motherly woman with four children of her own, she made sure that her sister and sister-in-law didn’t have the additional burden of feeling guilty because they were away from children and home so much.
“My aunt was not that educated,” says Prajna, Dr Natchiar’s elder son, who was nine when Aravind started and spent a lot of time at Janaky’s home. “But by managing all the domestic issues, she kept the family together. Her contribution was very significant.”
Dr V, of course, was keen that his nephews and nieces become ophthalmologists and work for Aravind.
“Although he never put any real pressure on us as kids,” says Dr S Aravind, the son of G Srinivasan, “he made us hang around the hospital on holidays, talk to patients, find out how many people had been treated each day. And he’d often introduce us to guests saying ‘He’s going to be a retinal specialist,’ or ‘She’s a future cornea person.’ ”
However, if someone was clearly not suited for medicine, Dr V encouraged them to pursue their own interests. “I loved English literature and finding out about things,” says Pavithra Mehta, a grandniece. “So Dr V suggested I study journalism.”
And Dr S Aravind, after dutifully becoming an ophthalmologist, acqui-red an MBA too. Today, like the rest of the family, Dr Aravind maintains a hectic pace. He is the administrator of the Madurai hospital and performs surgery several times a week. Indeed, all the eight nephews and nieces of Dr V who grew up in Madurai – and their spouses – work for Aravind.
Unlike many medical men, Dr V understood the importance of good hospital management, and within a few years of Aravind’s starting, lured his sister Janaky’s son-in-law, R D Thulasiraj, to Madurai. Money, naturally, was not the attraction; in fact, Thulasiraj, an IIM Kolkata alumnus working for a multinational company, took a 70 percent pay cut.
Thulasiraj soon realised that the mild-mannered Dr V had a unique way of enforcing discipline. Initially, not used to starting work at 7 am, Thulasiraj was constantly late. “Dr V didn’t say a word to me,” Thulasiraj recalls, “but started sending his car to pick me up in the mornings. I soon fell in line.”
Thulasiraj also discovered Dr V’s other unusual qualities. For example, he hated being praised. “If anyone did so,” Thulasiraj recalls, “he’d immediately change the subject.”
But perhaps the main lesson Thulasiraj picked up from his boss was that everyone has enormous potential that mostly lies untapped. “Your capacity is determined by how much you think you can do,” Thulasiraj says. “If you feel you can take on the world, that much energy will come to you.”
With Thulasiraj’s management skills harnessed to Dr V’s vision and everyone’s hard work, Aravind expanded rapidly. It built hospitals in four other Tamil Nadu cities, established a plant to manufacture high quality but inexpensive lenses and other ophthalmic products, and started a hospital management consultancy. Aravind today is probably the world’s most influential eye institution: About 10 percent of India’s 11,000-plus ophthalmologists – as well as hundreds of foreigners – have been trained here, and around 250 eye hospitals, in countries ranging from Ethiopia to China, have benefited from its management expertise.
Dr V had an inexhaustible interest in all kinds of things, and in 1990, he decided it was time to widen the horizons of his grand-nephews and -nieces. So he started a “New Age Group” consisting of all the kids in the family. Group members, accompanied by their parents, met every Sunday morning and each child had to research a topic chosen by Dr V and present it to the entire gathering. Subjects ranged from the local Meenakshi temple to why leaves changed colour.
“At first we thought of it as homework,” confesses Pavithra, now 30. “But slowly we grew to enjoy it. Dr V even took notes when we spoke – that made us feel very important. Besides the fun of getting together regularly, these meetings helped the family bond in a special way.”
Although Pavithra is now a journalist and lives in the US, she remains closely associated with the Aravind facility. She has made a film on Dr V and is writing a book on the AECS. And most of the other dozen-odd members of the New Age Group, which lasted for about a decade, plan to work for Aravind, either as doctors or in other capacities.
Dr Usha Kim is operating on a young man who has been referred to her by one of her former students, now practising in Bangalore. The patient had had one eye removed because of an injury, but the implant came out and Usha now has the tricky job of refashioning the man’s socket for another prosthesis. It’s one of 14 operations that Usha will perform that day.
Usha, the wife of Dr Kim, one of Dr V’s nephews, is the first daughter-in-law in the Aravind family to join AECS. She remembers being stunned during her initial days in Madurai, more than 17 years ago.
“The family worked all the time,” she says. “They didn’t seem human.”
Shortly thereafter, she developed a fever and was admitted to hospital. Soon, Dr V, walking slowly and painfully because of his arthritis, came to see her.
“What’s the matter?” he asked.
“I feel awful,” Usha replied.
Dr V looked at her. “I had a 104-degree fever this morning,” he said. “I took a tablet, and I’m OK now. You shouldn’t listen to your body.”
“And since then, I haven’t,” Usha says, laughing. Today, she heads the department that handles problems of the eye socket and eyelids and is also responsible for the training of mid-level paramedics. “I, too, work all the time,” she admits.
The incessant grind is more than compensated for by the tremendous support family members give each other, says Dr Lalitha, the wife of another of Dr V’s nephews, Prajna.
“If I have a problem, I know that I have several people I can depend on to help me,” she says. “We’re all very close.”
Dr V’s family belongs to the Kamma Naidu caste as do Usha and Lalitha and nearly all those who’ve married into it. But eight years ago, Prajna’s younger brother, Vishnu Prasad – already a maverick for studying business management rather than medicine and settling in the US – married a Sindhi girl. That, predictably, caused quite a stir, and Vishnu’s parents were unhappy.
As always, Dr V’s intervention saved the day. “It took him some time,” Dr Natchiar admits. “But he persuaded me to truly accept the marriage.”
In fact Dr V did much more that that – he was able to coax an initially reluctant Vishnu to return to India, much to the delight of his wife Chitra. Vishnu is now the international marketing manager for Aravind’s ophthalmic products.
Although she initially faced problems, Chitra, a finance MBA and full-time volunteer at Aravind’s consultancy division, now feels very much at home in Madurai. “Every day,” she says, “I thank Dr V for bringing Vishnu and me here.”
Adults aren’t invited to Subhashree Krishnadas’s eighth birthday party, but Drs Nam and Natchiar drop in anyway. Walking over to Subhashree, Natchiar hangs an Aravind identity card around her neck, certifying the little girl is the chief medical officer (CMO) of the Madurai hospital.
Since Subhashree – whose father is the hospital’s current chief marketing officer – looks a little worried, Natchiar asks her if she didn’t want to head the hospital when she grew up. “Of course I do,” Subhashree replies. Then, pointing to Natchiar’s nine-year-old grandson Aravind, she says, “But wouldn’t he mind?”
There are two kinds of people in the Aravind Eye Care System – those who belong to the family and those who don’t. And although Dr V laid down that people doing the same job had to get the same rewards and opportunities, whether they belonged to his family or not, being a family member does automatically confer a subtle cachet.
“It’s easier for me to get things done, than it is for my peers who are not part of the family,” admits Deepa Krishnan, Dr V’s grandniece. And it’s likely that some first-rate doctors have left Aravind because they sensed an invisible ‘family ceiling.’
Still, several non-family staff members insisted there was no discrimination at Aravind.
“When the post of Madurai’s CMO fell vacant,” says Subhashree’s father, Dr Krishnadas, “there were two family members and I in the running. We all had the same qualifications and experience. But I was the one who was promoted.” In fact, according to Deepa, belonging to the family isn’t easy. “More is expected of you,” she says. “You have to live up to your birthright.”
Towards the end of the 1990s, Dr V started relinquishing his administrative responsibilities. But he came to the hospital every day, and as he walked about with the help of a cane, some of the newer staff wondered who the old man in a white khadi shirt and old black chappals was. Once a guard told him to wait in the reception area and Dr V sat there quietly until Dr Natchiar arrived. Was that a sign of his innate humility? Or was it simply his shrewd way of checking how the guard would treat an elderly man who’d ostensibly come for help? Certainly, Dr V kept his wits about him until nearly the end, in 2006.
Indeed, recalls Fred Munson, an American professor of hospital management and a close friend, as Dr V’s strength waned, his family continued “growing and developing a little of Dr V in each of them.”
Madurai’s Justice V. R. Krishna Iyer Community Hall is packed. Inside, resplendent in a mustard and gold Kanjeevaram sari, Sathya, Dr V’s grandniece and Thulasiraj’s daughter, is getting married. The groom, Ashok Vardhan, is, like Sathya, studying for a postgraduate degree in ophthalmology at Aravind. The two young people have barely met, but their horoscopes, caste and social background match. In fact, Ashok’s uncle works at the Aravind Eye Care System hospital in Pondicherry, and Ashok, a lanky lad with a full moustache, will work for Aravind too.
Dr V, of course, is not there. But if he were he’d surely be content.